Strengthening Relationships for a Healthy Family

Couples and Relationships
Becoming Parents
Depression, Anxiety, and other Mental Health Concerns



Couples and Relationships

Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. – Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. An excellent introduction to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. – The official website for Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Contains links to the scientific research on the efficacy of this therapy. University of Ottawa, Canada. – San Diego Center for EFT. A leading source of training in and information about Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.

“What Makes a Healthy Marriage?” Dr. Sue Johnson on YouTube: – a website for couples. Includes short videos of experts answering questions that are raised by couples. The “What Makes a Healthy Marriage?” YouTube video above is one example. – The Gottman Institute is a great source of scientifically validated methods for improving your relationship.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, 1999.



The Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Friendships. Dr. John M. Gottman, 2002.



Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. Robert D. Enright, Ph.D., 2001.



Becoming Parents

When Partners Become Parents: The Big Life Change for Couples. Carolyn Pape Cowan, Ph.D. and Phillip A. Cowan, Ph.D., 1992



And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives. John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D. 2007




How to Settle A Baby, Dr. Harvey Karp on Dr. Phil. YouTube:

How To Talk So Kids Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk. by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, 2012. This is a classic book that is filled with illustrative cartoons about how to listen.


Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach. Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley, 1999. This is a powerful parenting method. It presents a system for “rewarding good behavior” and “setting clear limits” that is clear and simple.


Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children. Daniel A. Hughes, 2009



Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. Gordon Geufeld, Ph.D., and Gabor Mate, M.D. 2006



The Mindful Child: How to Help Your Kid Manage Stress and Become Happier, Kinder, and More Compassionate. Susan Kaiser Greenland. 2010



Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. Daniel Siegel, MD, and Mary Hartzell, 2003.




Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two. 2006

Depression, Anxiety, and other Mental Health Concerns – National Institute of Mental Health homepage, from which you can search for the topic of interest (depression, anxiety, panic attacks, etc.). This is a major clearinghouse of excellent information. – A good source for scholarly information. Registration is required, but free. – A generally reliable but less regulated site for physical and mental health.

Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, & Wisdom. Rick Hanson, Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, M.D.



Mind over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think. Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, 1995. A practical introduction to cognitive behavioral therapy that you can use in conjunction with therapy and many people have used on their own.


Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder From Childhood Through Adulthood. Edward Hallowell. 1995. How to understand and manage adult ADD.


Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life. Daniel G. Amen, M.D., 2008. Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. Edmund J. Bourne 4th Edition, 2005.



The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You. Elaine N. Aron, 1999.



Wherever You Go, There You Are. Jon Kabat-Zinn, 2005.




The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living. Russ Harris, 2008




Managing Pain Before It Manages You. Margaret A. Caudill, MD, PhD, MPH, 3rd Edition, 2009. Packed with important information and practical tips, by a pioneer in the holistic management of persistent pain.


The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living with Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder. Randi Kreger with James Paul Shirley, 2002.

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